The first point of 5-Point Wellness is Physical Health. The 5-Point Wellness plan starts with developing your best Physical body based on your age, gender, ethnicity, race, height and weight. Physical Health is, “the core physical and chemical science that drives the positive change, composition, structure, and properties of the physical self. Excellent Physical health is imperative to ensure that we are fully energized to master each day. Five Point Wellness’s contribution to your physical wellbeing is offering the highest quality health and wellness products in order to optimize your health.
The first point of 5-Point Wellness is Physical Health. The 5-Point Wellness plan starts with developing your best physical body based on your age, gender, ethnicity, race, height and weight. Physical health is an essential part of the wellbeing of an individual, which includes good nutrition, exercise, sleep, hydration, minimization of oxidation, appropriate supplementation and medication leading to optimum homeostasis at the cellular level. Homeostasis is the body’s ability to pursue and maintain a condition of good balance within as the aging process occurs.
We define Physical Health as, “the core physical and chemical science that drives the positive change, composition, structure, and properties of the physical self in direct relationship to psychological/mental, social, financial, and spiritual/emotional well-being of an individual”.
The relationship between each of the 5-Points is the main topic in our philosophy of the 5-Point Wellness Program. An excellent analogy to relate physical health to is the core of the earth. The core is important, without it, everything else would be out of balance and life as we know it wouldn't exist. Much similar to the core of the earth, physical health is what centers and binds the 4-other points in the 5-Point Wellness Plan.
Physical health is important in order to conquer each day with with the required energy and demands put on us. Only then, can we really effectively apply the 4-other components of the 5-Point Wellness plan. The other 4-Points of the 5-Point Wellness Plan include: Psychological/mental health, Social health, financial health, and emotional/spiritual health.
Two out of three Americans are overweight and/or out of balance. One third of Americans are obese and another third of Americans are sedentary. More than half the adult population never engages in physical activity that lasts longer than 10 minutes a day.
The solution lies in the proper application of all 5-Points starting with optimizing physical health. The aging process is a constant factor of change in our health and well-being. As we grow up, most of us can eat pretty much what we want until we are done growing. It’s interesting how our habits mold us as individuals. As time passes by and the pendulum starts to swing the opposite direction we grapple with muscle loss, metabolism change, life and environment changes. We have to make the choice of either having to find a direction that works positively for our health and wellness or be a victim of obesity, sickness and decreased of self-worth.
It is so important to 5-Point Wellness to have made it our mission, journey and dream to help others change. While the aging process is a key variable it is not the factor that needs to be focused on. We need to accept that we all age and it is our mindset on how we deal with the change.
The 5-Point Wellness Program will bring you change by applying a strategic, logical, and scientific plan that is translatable to life application as you go through your journey. We feel we will provide you with the keys you need to ensure you have a balanced approach. We see a need to create a better world and have the experience, knowledge, and confidence to help you in making the change the world needs.
5-Point Wellness has developed what we call the, “Perpetual Personal Improvement Cycle“, (PPIC). This process is as follows:
As you apply these steps it will become clear to you as your body becomes stronger, more flexible, mobile and you have the endurance to be able to take on anything. This is a lifelong journey, one that doesn’t happen overnight. Let’s work it together!
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Psychological/Mental Wellness The second point of 5-Point Wellness is Psychological/Mental Health. Psychological/Mental wellness is a state of mental toughness in which an individual is proficient in tapping into his/her cognitive skills. To tap into something is to understand and express individual’s beliefs, attitudes, mindset, and rationale’. Excellent Psychological/Mental toughness is imperative to ensure that we confidently master each day intellectually and logically. Five Point Wellness’s contribution to your psychological/mental wellbeing is offering the highest quality health and wellness products to optimize your mental toughness.
There are many ways to define Psychological/Mental wellness. Some people define it as simply as “a state of emotional and psychological well-being in which an individual is able to use his or her cognitive and emotional capabilities to adequately function in society and meet the ordinary demands of everyday life”. The Five Point Wellness approach to Psychological/Mental toughness is the neurological self-programing of ethical principles that are encoded in one’s mind in order to think critically, problem solve efficiently, and continuously strive to be the best person they can be. Neurological self-programming starts with the, “Know Thy Self Concept”, also known as the eudemonic psychological optimization approach. Eudemonic psychological optimization focuses on the meaning of self-realization. Eudemonic Self-realization defines well-being in terms of the degree to which a person is fully functioning nuero-psychologically. There are key categories that comprises how one becomes optimized neuro-psychologically which include:
Your brain needs the same nutrients that every cell in your body needs. It needs macronutrients like fat, protein, carbohydrates, vitamins and minerals and ketones.
The brain also needs nutrients that are rarely considered such as water and oxygen. Some essential brain nutrients are more likely to be missing from the modern diet than others. Some of the behaviors that might be keeping your brain from getting all of the nutrition it needs include:
Your brain health, often referred to as your cognitive health is determined by how well your brain can perform mental processes like remembering things, learning things, and spoken language. A healthy brain is just as important as a healthy body. Many of the things you do to keep your body healthy can also keep your brain healthy. Eat fruits, vegetables, and whole grains. A diet that includes lots of fruits, vegetables, and whole grains properly feed the brain with the needed glucose levels that your brain needs. Daily consumption of omega-3 fatty acids. The most common source of omega-3 fatty acids are fatty fish such as sardines, tuna, salmon, mackerel, krill, and herring. If you aren’t able to consume these types of fats in your diet because of the taste, supplementation is another excellent option. Daily consumption of omega-3 fatty acids keeps the brain well hydrated promoting the electrical impulses of the brain to fire smoothly. Omega-3 fatty acids contain two types of omega-3 fatty acids eicosapentaenoic acid (EPA) and docosahexaenoic acid (DHA), which are well known for their heart health, skin benefits, and brain function. Fish oil has an incredible impact on the brain, especially when it comes to decreasing mild memory loss and depression. These two fatty acids are components of cell membranes and have powerful anti-inflammatory functions within the body. They are also well known for their critical roles in human development at the cellular level.
According to the national sleep foundation, one of the most important aspects of psychological wellbeing is good sleep hygiene. Sleep hygiene is more than the quantity of sleep one gets. Good sleep hygiene incorporates the amount and quality of sleep. Sleep needs vary across ages and are especially impacted by lifestyle and health. Generally, 8-hours of good solid sleep time is for everyone. However, there are recommendations that can provide guidance on how much sleep you need. Other good sleep hygiene practices include:
Good Sleep improves concentration and Productivity generally. Sleep is important for various aspects of brain function. This includes cognition, concentration, productivity and performance. There have been many studies performed on the importance of sleep. The most well-known is the study performed on medical student interns that used to work 24-hours typically 4 to 5 days a week. In this study approximately 36% more serious medical errors occurred and approximately 70% more minor errors occurred. Simply by better scheduling the interns to get regular sleep the errors went down drastically. Other key studies have shown that poor sleep hygiene has similar negative impacts to the brain at the same degree of alcohol intoxication does. Conversely, good sleep hygiene has been shown to improve problem-solving skills and enhance memory performance of all ages.
Psychological and emotional wellbeing is significantly impacted by our hormone levels. When our hormone levels are too high or too low then they will negatively affect our psychological and emotional wellbeing. The brain is negatively affected by out of balance hormones resulting in the number of important neurotransmitters being produced. Neurotransmitter imbalance leads to or exacerbates hormone imbalance creating a whole host of psychological and emotional problems such depression, anxiety, mood swings, low libido, and lack of energy, to name a few. Therefore, once you reach the age of 30 you should get annual blood tests to evaluate and measure your hormone levels. If you are experiencing negative symptoms before that, you should go in immediately to be have your hormones tested. The most common hormone imbalances that occur, but are usually easily fixed are as follows:
Progesterone:With PCOS, your body may not have enough of this hormone and can cause you to your periods for a long time, or to have periods that are hard to predict.
Common symptoms of polycystic ovarian syndrome include: unwanted hair growth on the face chin, breasts, stomach, or thumbs and toes. Hair loss on the head. Unusual weight gain. Acne and unusually oily skin, insomnia, chronic fatigue, frequent headaches, infertility, and abnormal and/or irregular menses. Many psychological problems occur because of improper hormone balance. Proteins are the essential components of muscle tissue, organs, blood, enzymes, antibodies, and neurotransmitters in the brain. Many neurotransmitters are regulated by hormones. When one’s hormones are out of balance then the the four major neurotransmitters that regulate mood such as Serotonin, Dopamine, GABA and Norepinephrine will be negatively impacted resulting in poor brain health.
For many adults, sexuality forms an integral and cherished part of their lives. Whether that sexuality is expressed with a partner can be a source of meaning and great pleasure in our lives.
According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, 20% of us will struggle with mental illness in our lifetimes. That means that even if you don’t struggle with mental illness yourself, it’s likely that mental illness will affect your life through someone you know or love, including those we may be sexually intimate with. Just because someone may struggle with mental illness or simply maybe out of balance mentally and emotionally doesn’t mean that they need to be embarrassed or give up on intimacy. Many people struggle far more than necessary because they don’t have the information, support, or lack the necessary ability to communicate with others of what they may need or what they are being challenged with.
Intimacy is a matter of mind and body. We often think of sex as something our bodies are doing, but a lot of our sex life takes place in our brains. It’s important to realize that, for all genders, our thoughts and feelings play a vital role in getting us turned on and keeping us that way.
Anxiety, depression, and an imbalanced mind and body can strongly affect arousal and can definitely ruin the mood sometimes. Anxiety and other related mental health struggles can make it hard to be relaxed enough to have or enjoy sex, overshadowing it with a host of worries or intrusive distractions. When we are unwell and struggling just to function, sex is rarely at the top of our mind. Even when sex is on the top of the mind and anxiety is the predominant emotion in someone, it can lead to premature orgasm in both men and women. A low dose of depression medication can resolve the premature orgasm problem in both men and women.
The struggle with mental and emotional imbalance in a variety of forms can hurt a person’s self-esteem and make them feel unworthy of sexual attention. For example, a person may have an unrealistic view of their own body and may actively seek to deny or discipline the body as a way of coping. In these cases, it’s important to be critical of the beauty norms we are shown by the media, step away from the practice of measuring or defining ourselves, and to seek to rediscover our love and appreciation for our bodies and our sexual selves.
Illicit and non-illicit substance use may put limitations or restrictions upon one’s sexual interest. Some drugs can affect your brain in ways that make you less able to feel pleasure from sex for periods of time after their use.
Illicit and non-illicit substance use can be a problem when it leads to sexual behaviors one may not feel proud of. Under the influence of drugs, you may do things that you regret, such as having sex with someone you wouldn’t have while sober, or doing things you normally might be uncomfortable with; such as being filmed or photographed during sex, or having sex in public spaces. These personal-boundary transgressions can lead to shame and loss of self-esteem and cause conflict in relationships.
Additionally, addiction or mental health problems like mania may be associated with intentionally seeking risky situations such as having unprotected sex with strangers or seeking ever escalating levels of violence, humiliation, and bodily harm (both in real life and in the pornography one is viewing). This can impact a person’s ability to find interest in having sex with their steady partner, because the sought-after thrill or risk is no longer present impacting the mind negatively.
The social stigma of mental illness and addiction can make finding partners difficult for some. It’s important that we work together as a society to promote inclusive and supportive measures and coping mechanisms to assist people in achieving the five-point wellness balance of intimacy.
Relationships are not only important for our general health and wellbeing, but they impact our psychological and emotional health. Healthy relationships promote us to be who we are. They nurture our minds, help us learn and grow, and psychologically become balanced. Positive relationships help us become better people. Healthy, relationships can reduce stress. By reducing stress it reduces inflammation in the body, and reducing inflammation has a positive impact on the brain.
Researchers have shown that people with healthy social relationships have a 50 percent greater likelihood of being successful in all aspects of their lives. But relationships are challenging sometimes exhausting at best. People with poor relationships are more likely to suffer from depression, and loneliness is powerful enough to weaken our immune system. Positive relationships whether social or intimate promote happiness and joy in our lives. They constitute a vital part of wellbeing. Psychologically and emotionally connecting can be scary, but it’s how we bond with one another. In adulthood, we often find that connection through intimate body-to-body contact, or sex.
A positive relationship makes you, a negative relationship breaks you, a challenging relationship refines you, and a one-sided relationship binds you. Some key steps of promoting positive relationships include:
In summary, positive relationships are vital to having good psychological and mental well-being. Positive relationships impact us in a host of different ways. When you have positive relationships in your life, it helps lead to having a higher self-confidence.
Self-confidence is the belief or trust in your abilities, qualities, good judgement, and continued learning from both failures and accomplishments. Self-confident people don't need to act tough or present as arrogant. Self-confident people are able to balance their confidence and humility that underscores their mental toughness. How is self-confidence achieved?
By putting your heart and soul into your daily passions you will be on the road to self-confidence; however, this alone doesn’t make one self-confident. When a person puts their heart and soul into their daily life, with purpose, and those purposes or goals are frequently achieved the individual will grow and be confident in their ability to produce the results they desire. The self-confident person doesn’t always achieve their goals because some goals are not achievable at the time they set out to accomplish them. Self-confident people that don’t achieve their goals at the desired time, aren’t ready to achieve them because they haven’t developed the ability to achieve them yet.
What sets them apart from others is the “don’t give up” mentality and knowing that they just need to develop the ability to later achieve the goal. They consistently apply the P&P principle. The persistence and pressure that self-confident people apply to themselves drives them to achieve successes. As the persistence and pressure on themselves continues as does the increase in their abilities. Often times, self-confident people even feed more off of the negative more because when someone tells them they can’t do it, then that negativity sparks the “can do attitude” in them.
Self-confident people will set out to achieve the goal as a personal self-challenge. In other words, self-confident positive people find the solutions to every problem and savor the new challenges that are presented during their quest to find the solutions. Being a self-confident individual helps us learn how to be independent thinkers.
Independent Thinking Everyone would like to be a mentally strong person, but mental resilience can be extremely hard to achieve when life gets on top of you. In order to be mentally strong, you must prevent yourself from getting carried away by emotions to the point where you can’t see logic. This involves dealing with difficult tasks one step at a time without getting overwhelmed, and also means balancing positive and negative thoughts in a way that advantages you not getting carried away with one side or the other.
There are many factors that encourage independent thought. High self-esteem however, is the single most distinguishing characteristic of any creative thinker and is often what propels individual thinking, performance, and success. The feeling that each individual has about themselves can be both limiting and inspiring. It’s essential to be self-aware. True self-awareness is defined as, “a conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives, desires, and perception both internally and externally”. Internally they are confident, independent, and possess the ability to shape others perception of them.
Self-awareness needs one to slow down and observe without a motive, whereby the mind becomes quieter, the noise decreases, ability to appreciate nuances and detail increases goes up which makes it so that we are able to enjoy a lot out of much less. Not many people are ready to believe this is productive.
To a mind that is quieted, not 'seeking' something almost in a meditative state many beautiful nuances are revealed. Whereas a fast, noisier mind needs a more 'gross/loud' structure of music to even perceive it. We live in a world where going faster, shifting gears, achieving the max in the minimum time is seen as the secret to success and hence to happiness. Self-aware people are people who have taken the time to realize going slower is actually more productive. They still seem to accomplish a lot. To a mind in a hurry, in competition, chasing something, this might seem a waste of time, meaningless and boring. Expecting self-awareness here is impossible.
Things that need to occur in order for one to become self-aware include:
In summary, self-awareness can be acquired through education, training, and applying the P&P principle. P&P is persistence and pressure. The more pressure you put on yourself to always learn, approach life as a journey instead of a race, quiet your mind, you will become more self-aware. Once you are more self-aware then you will become more of an independent thinker. When you are an independent thinker you are able to focus and become more goal oriented. When we are goal oriented our minds are able to be more balanced.
Staying focused on our goals often can be challenging. Life throws many obstacles in our path that can derail our ability to stay focused and goal oriented. Therefore, learning how execute this is not only a skill but is also an art. As we design our lives, much like a sculptor crafts a piece of art, we need to have a vision, but also have the ability to break that vision down into smaller steps in order to achieve the goals. The first step of staying focused is learning how to visualize yourself being successful. As you calm your mind and learn how to visualize yourself being successful you will learn how to meditate. As you meditate or ponder on your goals you need to write those goals down to help you remember them. A good strategy for goal setting maybe setting up a vision board. Once you have your vision board you can then write down the mile stones. Mile stones are different achievables, in other words, key steps that you will need to achieve along the way. The next step is to break down the achievables in to daily, weekly, and monthly tasks. Working off of a to-do list will assist you in staying focused. A to-do list works like a recipe. A key thing to note however, some tasks will be more desirable to work on than others and often jumping ahead on a task you would rather work on maybe actually set you back. Therefore, make sure you follow the tasks in the most logical order to achieve your goals in the most time efficient and effective manner possible.
As we stay goal oriented, stop and enjoy the learning process then our purpose in life will be revealed.
Researchers in many disciplines of science have studied how long-term, meaningful goals develop over the span of our lives. The goals that foster a sense of purpose are ones that can potentially change the lives of other people, like launching an organization, researching disease, or teaching kids to read. Within us, there is an ever lingering sense of purpose that drives us as humans appears to have evolved over time. We as humans have learned that we can accomplish big things together which may be why it’s associated with better physical and mental health. Purpose is adaptive, in an evolutionary sense. It helps both individuals and the species to survive.
Many seem to believe that purpose arises from your special gifts and sets us apart from other people but that’s only part of the truth. It also grows from our connection to others, which is why a crisis of purpose is often a symptom of isolation. Once you find your path, you’ll almost certainly find others traveling along with you, hoping to reach the same destination as a community.
There are many things that we can do to help us find our purpose in life; however, we at Five-Point Wellness, believe there are 6-key things that need to be done on a daily basis. These five things consist of; “Staying positive, stay fighting, stay ambitious, stay focused, stay strong.”
The Five Point Wellness approach to Psychological/Mental toughness is the neurological self-programing of ethical principles that are encoded in one’s mind in order to think critically, problem solve efficiently, and continuously strive to be the best person they can be. Neurological self-programming starts with the, “Know Thy Self Concept”, also known as the eudemonic psychological optimization approach. Eudemonic psychological optimization focuses on the meaning of self-realization. As one applies the principles outlined in the Five Point Wellness plan, the closer you will be to self-realization.
The third important point of 5-Point Wellness is Social Health/Wellness. Social health is the ability to confidently interact with others by establishing positive relationships with family, friends, co-workers, and acquaintances throughout our life. Our quality of life is improved through frequent and optimistic interactions with all people. Excellent social wellness is imperative to ensure that we confidently master each day by tapping into our physical and psychological abilities to positively impact others’ lives. Five Point Wellness’s contribution to your social wellbeing is offering the highest quality health and wellness products in order to elevate your self-image.
We at 5-Point Wellness believe that it is possible to have positive relationships regardless of who we encounter. Even situations with people that provide opposition, gives us opportunities to show respect to those that oppose us. The most important factor in social health is respect for others. Through our ability to effectively communicate as a reasonable and logical adult, it immediately shows people respect. We at 5-Point Wellness call this the Adult Communication Model. Respect of others ranges from generally being kind to people all the way to having an intense affection for those individuals that are in our inner circle of trust. Without knowing how apply the adult communication model, our respect for others will be extremely difficult. 5-Point Wellness likes the communication model called, “The 5 love languages” written by Gary Chapman in combination with the Adult Communication Model. The five love languages include: gift giving, quality time, words of affirmation, acts of service (devotion), and physical touch.
Regardless of your dominant love language, developing the skill of effective verbal communication is a must. We at 5-Point Wellness believe that the Adult Communication Model is a key communication method in order to build strong social skills. The Adult Communication Model is a two-way or “bilateral” communication process that promotes trust. Utilizing this bilateral communication, helps quickly show to the other individual that they are respected and at the same time minimizes defensive barriers from being put up.
The Adult Communication Model relies on the formula of “seeing, thinking, and feeling”. When communicating with others, especially when problem solving, being observant and communicating what you see to the other individual is the first step. The second step is to provide information on what you think about your observation and asking the other individual what they think. After you have discussed what each other think, then the third step can be approached by discussing how each other feel about the observation(s). Example
The action portion of the Adult Communication Model focuses on needs, wants, and follow through. After the two individuals have discussed how they see, think, and feel, they then can categorize their discussion into two buckets, either needs or wants. It’s important to note that basic needs must be fulfilled prior to being able to successfully fulfill each other wants. When relationships fail, it is often a result of when wants are the primary focus and basic needs are neglected. Some examples of basic needs include: trust, security, love, money, shelter, food, health, transportation, intimacy etc.. Some examples of wants include, jewelry, exotic cars, a bigger house, expensive clothing etc.. In summary, putting forth the effort of learning what other’s love language is combined with learning how to apply the Adult Communication Model is the most successful way of developing healthy relationships. Some relationships will be more socially in-depth than others, and it is vital to consistently strive for excellent communication with everyone that we come into contact with each day. By doing this, our social life will consistently be in balance and inner peace can be achieved. Click here to find suggested reading material, videos, and audio books that can be purchased.
For example, if you are having a disagreement with your spouse or loved one about a certain topic, lets say your spouse states, “you never listen to me about anything”. Typically, most of us would jump to the defense and say, “that's false!” or “that's bull shit” or use some other description. Then an ensuing argument will take place; feelings will be hurt; and then eventually hopefully a calm and rational discussion will take place. However, if this destructive parent child communication method occurs too frequently then it becomes a habitual method in which one will communicate like a volcano erupting. People will feel they are walking on egg shells around you, never knowing how to really approach you.
There is a much better way to communicate. We at 5-Point Wellness want share how the ACME would work in this same situation.
Using the same phrase your significant other says, “you never listen to me about anything”! Instead of going on the defense you need to train your mind to immediately translate this statement and immediately go to the OTFNWD mode. The initial response would sound something like, “I see that you are bothered by something, do you mind sharing what it is”? Depending upon how well you know this person and how long you have communicated using the parent child communication method, it will take some time to reintegrate this process. The individual still might be skeptical about how you responded and still might be on the defensive. You would then reiterate, “I could be wrong, but are you upset about something? You wait and listen carefully to the response. Be patient and listen. Once you have listened, you restate your interpretation of the issue calmly and collectively. Remember, don't let the other person allow you to elevate your emotions to anger. As soon as anger begins then the ACME will be difficult to retreat to. Once you have restated your interpretation of what is wrong then you ask, “is this correct or ask, is that what you are saying”? It may take a little time to tease out of the other individual what it is that they are really upset about, but be patient and listen to really what is being said. Repeat the interpretation and remember to remain calm. Often times we might even be attacked or called names but keep your frame of mind in the OTFNWD mode and once you think you have identified what the issue is then take the opportunity to move to the T stage.
Once you identify what the issue that needs to be resolved then you can move on to the T portion of the process. T stands for thinking. Now this stage is typically more difficult to deal with because women often mix the thinking (T) and feelings (F) together and confuse their male counterpart. Men traditionally go to thinking and then later jump to the feeling portion. Men rarely do both at the same time. If they do, then they go straight to anger. REMEBER, So stay on target and discuss what you both think about the issue is and discuss it.
Once you have discussed what you both think about it then you can move to the Feeling (F) phase by asking, “how does this make you feel when....”. If you inadvertently jump to quickly to how they feel about it, catch yourself and then revert back to the thinking phase and continue to discuss it. Then move on to the feeling phase.
Now a caution to men. This can be dangerous territory for you because men typically deal with things by feeling angry. We aren't sure why this is but statistically, men typically tend to get angry if they move on to the feeling phase to quickly. Also, men typically don't like to talk about feelings because for some reason they think it is a sign of weakness. But men, I promise you that women will be much impressed by your ability to speak intelligently of how you truly feel. When feelings are discussed in a positive and non-confrontational environment this is when real communication takes place. Emotionally, you begin to develop a good connection with the other person. Now, keep in mind as you and the other individual become better at communicating then the different phases will transition smoothly, resolution will come more quickly and trust will be built stronger.
The next stage is called the Need stage (N). As you and the other individual discuss things you need to make sure that you are addressing basic needs first prior to jumping to the want stage. If a person is always putting their wants in front of the other person’s needs, then the relationship is doomed to be very rocky. Basic needs need to be filled prior to fulfilling the wants. Trust is a basic need and as you are talking about feelings in a non-confrontational manner a strong circle of trust will be built. The core categories of basic needs include; trust, safety, love/belonging, esteem, self-actualization, and physical needs. The details of these basic needs are:
Physiological needs include: air, water, food, good health, and excretion.
Trust/Safety needs include: security of body, employment, resources, morality, family, health and property.
Love/Belonging needs include: Loving and being loved by family and friends, and having fulfillment of your love languages.
Esteem needs include: Self-esteem, self-confidence, frequent achievement, respecting others and being respected by others. All communication either falls into either one of the basic need categories or in a want category. If what you are disagreeing about is a basic need issue then once a solution, which often involves compromise, is derived then you skip to the D stage.
D stands for Do. Do it and be consistent at what it is that you have agreed to do. At first you may fail a couple of times but when an honest effort is made then you both will see that that you value each other and will easily grant forgiveness when you aren't able to always be consistent but are making diligent effort.
When the ACME communication method is used by applying OTFNWD then all needs and wants will be fulfilled. One could argue that you could spend a life time on just dealing with the basic needs section. This is very true in many respects; however, once you become consistent at using the adult communication method then you can begin to move some of the wants into the basic needs category.
We like to call the wants section the wish list section because the wish list section needs to exist to continue to add good quality of life. Everyone has interests and wants. If wants are never fulfilled, then life will become mundane and plane boring.
The key thing to remember that OTFNWD is important to know how to navigate well because it will empower you not only in family relationships but also at business and when dealing with acquaintances. It is a very powerful and effective tool to learn.
At 5-point wellness we provide a forum for you through coaching. We have developed our own adult communication video series to help assist with giving suggestions on how to handle some of the issues that we all deal with on a day to day basis. Here are some basic tips that we cover in our video series educating people on the Adult Communication Model.
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how a person gets along with other people
a person's level of support from people and institutions around them
how well a society does at offering every citizen the equal opportunity to obtain access to the goods and services critical to being able to function as a contributing member of society
An example of social health is the amount of interaction a person has with their community.
An example of social health for a society is laws and regulations being applied to all citizens equally.
An example of social health is public access to the decision-making processes.
An example of social health is when an individual feels the support offered by being a part of the society, causing him to feel the encouragement to better himself through personal growth such as increased education or the development of a talent.
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The fourth point of 5-Point Wellness is Financial Health and Well-being. Financial wellness is a way of life that incorporates the necessary mindset and actions that motivates one to take the vital steps to persistently work hard and be innovative in becoming financially self-reliant.
Financial well-being is defined as having financial security and freedom of choice, in the present and in the future. Financial Self-Reliance is the process of leveraging ones physical, mental, social and emotional abilities in order to consistently win, thus enabling one to live life on their own terms resulting in payday, every day. Financial wellness starts with physically being well. When we are physically well it helps promote optimization of the mind. When the mind is optimized, the result is a higher mindset that leads to a desire to want to win, and win all the time. When this desire is consistent it results in taking the organized steps to achieve the winning state.
Successful people are willing to cross the line that others aren’t. When an individual consistently wins in business it can be measured by the amount of income that is generated. However, when an individual or business focuses solely on the finances and not on the winning, the focus is lost and winning will fall by the wayside and so will the income. Financial health and wellness is a five-point formula comprised of diversified income generation, budgeting, debt elimination, saving, and retirement planning.
Diversified Income Generation: Most successful people are able to generate income from more than one source. We often hear about the importance of diversifying our investments, but diversifying our income streams is just as important. There are 5-Key types of income streams that are comprised of the following:
Budgeting: For most people budgeting their money is often seen as a cumbersome and time consuming task. At first, budgeting does take a fair amount of time but once you do it and follow the budget it becomes a habit. Developing the disciplined habit of budgeting is also a 5-step process. (MedPi)
Debt elimination: When living far beyond your financial means it makes you feel anxious. When you feel anxious your quality of life decreases and your mindset is not focused on winning or even debt elimination. Debt elimination is also a 5-step plan that is comprised of the following (PIPNI):
Saving: 70% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. With no margin, every unplanned expense becomes a crisis. Once the steps of diversified income generation, budgeting, and debt elimination are achieved then a considerable more amount of your income can be set aside in an interest bearing savings account, 401K, CD, IRA, Gold IRA, real estate, or low risk money market account. The following steps need to be followed:
Save money on your basic needs. Always look for the best deals on basic needs items. Basic needs consist of but are not limited to: food, dietary supplements, toiletries, medical expenses, medicines, transportation, housing, clothing, gasoline, communication devices, etc.
Educate yourself on basic need products so that you can get the products that you like at the best possible price. A good example is pain medication. People often just buy the name brand Advil or Tylenol not fully knowing what they are. Marketers and companies are creative in maximizing their profits off of uneducated consumers. Advil sells for at an average price of $13.99 where ibuprofen (i.e. the generic version) is only $7.49 on average savings of approximately $6.00. Always be on the hunt for the best deal. However, don’t just buy because it is a good deal. Be conservative.
Retirement Planning: Most people don't save for retirement until it's too late. Retirement planning should start as soon as you enter into the work force. If you are one of the millions that hasn’t started retirement planning, then begin now. There are key things to retirement planning that are outlined below.
By implementing and being disciplined in following the key points with in the 5-Points of financial wellness you will improve your overall quality of life and health and wellbeing.
The fifth important point of 5-Point Wellness is Emotional and Spiritual wellbeing. Spirituality is the pure potential energy within all intelligences allowing maximum enlightenment to be achieved. Once enlightenment is achieved, your spirit is harmonized and the energy is converted into kinetic energy and communicated as truth, light, love, wisdom, power, and joy.
Emotions are the natural and instinctive state of mind that come about from one's life’s circumstances, relationships with others, and body chemistry.
Spirituality and emotions are symbiotic, meaning they both impact each other positively or negatively. When one’s emotions are composed, then the ability to achieve enlightenment is much higher. When one’s spirituality is in a positive state, then emotions will also be in a positive state.
Spiritual and emotional balance can only be achieved through key activities which include but are not limited to: visualization, education, application, and loving others. If you want to increase the likelihood of becoming spiritually and emotionally balanced, visualization is where it all begins. By having the ability to visualize being enlightened, you will need to do a few important things. When you visualize your successes It teaches your brain to recognize what resources it will need to help you succeed in reaching emotional and spiritual balance. Each time you become balanced it will promote positive thinking which in turn will motivated you to strive to be the best that you can be.
Visualization to gain insight:
Education to gain understanding: Education gives us a knowledge of the world around us and helps provide the confidence to make changes for the better. Knowledge helps us develop a different way of looking at life from a variety of perspectives. It helps us build opinions and points of view to challenge ourselves and others. The more we gain understanding the smarter we become, and gives us the ability to improve ourselves and act wisely.
Ethical application of knowledge makes you wise: Wisdom is the ethical application of knowledge.
Love: To love and be loved is loved is a primary human emotional need. However, love is more than an emotion, it is a verb in the English language which implies that it requires action. You need to love yourself before you can effectively love others. It all starts with self-talk. Positive self-talk is the key to starting to love yourself. We live in a Universe that is full of laws and we are bound by these laws. Everything in our lives at this moment we have attracted through positive self-talk.
In summary, Spirituality is the pure potential energy within all intelligences allowing maximum enlightenment to be achieved. Once enlightenment is achieved, your spirit is harmonized and the energy is converted into kinetic energy and communicated as truth, light, love, wisdom, power, and joy. Spirituality is also a belief system that guides the welfare of oneself that can and must be shared with society. It eradicates sources of unhappiness and maliciousness. Happiness, true happiness, is an inner quality. It is a state of mind. If your mind is at peace, you are happy. If your mind is at peace, but you have nothing else, you can be happy. If you have everything the world can give - pleasure, possessions, power - but lack peace of mind, you can never be happy.
Spiritual and emotional balance can only be achieved through key activities which include but are not limited to: visualization, education, application, and loving others. We were born to add value to this world. Tapping into our spirituality and sharing it with other people will not only add value to this world but to the universe. Adding value to this world will bring abundance not only to you but to others. When this occurs, you will be in spiritual and emotional balance. Those willing to bear one another’s burdens, that they may make them lighter; to help those that are in need, and comfort those that are in need will be lifted up emotionally and spiritually.
You were born to add value to this world. Tapping into your spiritual bliss and sharing it with other people will not only add value to this world but to the universe. Adding value to this world will bring abundance not only to you but to others. When this occurs, you will be in spiritual and emotional balance. The innate desire to be connected to the something larger than ourselves.